I’m so sick of women shaming, judging, and belittling other women. Have we all not had to put up with enough BS in life just existing as women? But some women feel the need to judge other women. Harshly too. Once again it’s influencers and ‘coaches’ who’ve pissed me off, but anyone who does it …
I saw something online recently that said, ‘your 20s and 30s are just research, life begins at 40.’ I think it came originally from Carl Jung. He theorized that it’s in our forties that focus shifts from external achievement to inner fulfillment. The past few years, I’ve had a real shift that I’ve come to …
On a day before my fortieth birthday, I woke up disabled. On a day before my very recent 46th birthday, I woke up feral with very few f***s left. I’ve had some personality changes over the last several months, in that I seem to have gone feral. I no longer give a ffffffffff about much. …
I detest fitness and wellness influencers. Well, I despise all influencers. Especially if they introduce themselves as an influencer. It makes me want to introduce myself as a boxer. They’re often poorly educated and without a good grasp of science, biology, or medicine. You know what saying they love that’s incredibly offensive and ableist? It’s …
I’ve been really busy with work and I forgot to write about med changes! They happened in September. Better living through pharmacology. This year, I saw not only my awesome neurologist but also a physiatrist. He’s also cool, a bit sardonic but that’s my jam so the appointment was great. He’s the doc who specializes …
Twice a year, I go to the city for an Ocrevus infusion to manage MS. It keeps my immune system from snacking on my brain and spinal cord. The first time was terrifying because I had no idea what to expect. What did they think might happen, given all the talk about infusion reaction, pre-medication …
I got an Alinker and joined a study on it and it’s amazing. It’s a walking bike, a different type of mobility aid. It’s like a walker but you’re supported on a seat the whole time. You’re essentially walking like you used to. If you go to my A Splendid Mess page on Facebook, you …
I’m still learning how to navigate life with a disability. I haven’t taught CPR or first aid in years and I used to love it. Turns out I was really good at it, too. I loved seeing things click for students in class and watching them leave confident that if they witnessed an emergency, they …
The past couple years, I started to develop an immunity to gaslighting. Today, I realized it’s great that I’m nearly impervious now to gaslighting but what’s even better? I don’t have to put myself in situations to experience gaslighting at all! Common refrains I heard for many years included such hits as, “I never said/did …
I was following someone on social media for their art. They also have autism and do a lot of advocacy, which I think is great. I unfollowed after a discussion about accessible spaces because it enraged me. I didn’t announce it, I just left. That’s what grownups do. Medical and mental health professionals have suggested …
